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Author: Andrew Nauenburg

Feedback and Fear

Half of those in leadership don’t ask for feedback because they expect the worst – arguments, impossible demands, termination, etc.

Because they are fearful, people avoid feedback and continue to make assumptions about what employees and bosses think.

Help yourself and help your company by encouraging healthy dialogue around performance and expectations.

Reflections From a Mortician

Don’t let Death Guide You, Life Should Show You the Way

I used to be a mortician. My time inside a funeral home helping families at a period in their life riddled with grief was some of the most rewarding and educational experiences of my life. Not a day goes by that I don’t miss the work – even as I’m enthralled with my current situation – having a freaking blast helping people launch successful businesses and with taking early-stage brands and ramping them up to market.

But that doesn’t mean I let myself off the hook – I’m aware and full of gratitude daily for my time as a funeral director. It provided endless perspective and forced me to find the space to see how many people died with big and heavy regrets.

Oddly enough, those regrets have been the fuel keeping my creative entrepreneurial fire sparked.

DON’T LET DEATH GUIDE YOU, LIFE SHOULD SHOW YOU THE WAY.

It’s such a cliche, the ‘ol idea of people spouting off regrets while lying in their deathbed but those moments in a dying person’s life can and should be used as a teaching tool.

The regrets are typically stuff that they didn’t do, not the stuff they did do.

Many of us walk through life not paying attention to all the opportunity that presents each day.

Let the life you’re living now show you the way. If you want to write that book, write the damn book. If you want to start that business, start the damn business. Do it now when you have plenty of time to take the feedback the world provides and make necessary adjustments on your way to success.

Just don’t wait.

Needs vs Wants

Technology has made so much about our lives easier. But it’s also made things difficult. In particular, it’s hurt our children’s ability to differentiate between needs and wants.

We Talk Too Much

We Talk Too Much

Hey, parents! I mean it. Probably in general (ha!) but specifically we talk too much when our kids are reactive and having a hard time listening. We often need to be quiet. Just be quiet. I know. It sounds crazy. But bear with me for a moment…

Talking and talking to our upset children is counterproductive because the noise gives them increased sensory input and further dysregulates them.

I’m not asking you to ignore the situation and do nothing.

Instead, try nonverbal communication. Try holding them. Or a hug. Maybe rub their shoulders. Sometimes a gentle smile will do the trick. But focus on giving them a vehicle that will help calm them down.

Then, we can introduce redirection with words that can address the issue on a more logical level.

Followers

Goodness. The obsession some have with their number of social media followers is mind-boggling to me.

Now, wait…If your account exists to share selfies and cat photos, then please, stop reading and go on growing those followers. This rant ain’t for you.

BUT, If you have a social media account that is geared toward selling (insert whatever here), then under no circumstance should you focus solely on the number of followers. What do 5,000 followers help you achieve if none of them give a crap about what you’re professing or selling?

 

Curate a following based on connection and authenticity, those people will buy from you. You know, be a human being. 50 real, engaged followers > 5,000 uninterested warm bodies.

This also goes for your email list, sales funnel, and potential paper route.