Your goals don’t define you. Don’t let them. What does define you is how you handle the problems that you’ll face in your journey pursuing your goals.
Because we are human, we put all our chips into the outcome of those goals. We tend to tie our sense of “success” and self-worth to those goals and whether or not we achieve them. Don’t do that.
Your “success” should be tied to the process and the pursuit of working towards that goal.
I set a goal big goal for myself to get rid of sugar from my diet. It’s been a trainwreck. I fail at that attempt almost daily. But I forget to look at the bigger picture – I continue to work toward that goal and in the process, I’ve drastically cut my daily sugar intake. THAT’S STILL A WIN. Sure, I haven’t completely cut sugar, but this sugar goal of mine is going to be a process – I could have quit doing it altogether, instead, I continue to be relentless in pursuit of my goal.
So go and create big, bold, and badass goals (goal setting is important). Pursue them with an unparalleled passion but do so with an awareness and openness that achieving them is only a small part of what makes you successful. We are an imperfect being and we grow and flourish regardless of the outcome by simply being fearless in our pursuing those wild ideas.