Daring Dads #09: When Things Happen: What’s Next?

    How many times a day do you find yourself watching your kids have a meltdown? It’s almost always an overreaction to something small. Right?

    One of the best gifts we can give our kids is to teach them that in this world, things happen and many times those things that happen to us are simply beyond our control.

    A great example to illustrate this is the playground. When teams are being picked for the soccer game at recess, if our kids aren’t the captain the day, they have no control over who ends up on which team.

    But we always have control – at recess, we can control how we respond to being picked at the wrong time.

    Ultimately, our actions are all we can control – how we respond to what happens to us.

    We can help ourselves and our children by making it a daily practice to reflect on how we react to certain situations throughout the day. It’s not easy and it doesn’t happen overnight, but we can train our minds to pause and respond in a way that is more appropriate. By looking back at our day, it helps us recognize times when we react poorly.

    The Ancient Stoics built their entire foundation on emphasizing a life of clear thinking. A calm mind helps us navigate difficult situations because we are positioned to respond with clarity and careful thought, not with our often irrational gut emotions.

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